I started this mom blogging journey in January 2014. Less than a month later, I wrote a blog post that garnered much attention. The post is called Leave My Daughter's Hair Alone. Over three years later, I still find myself navigating the world of hair and parenting and the two worlds continue to collide...
Whenever I wrote Leave My Daughter's Hair Alone, I was raising an 18 month-old girl and pregnant with another girl. Internet trolls were talking trash about Beyoncé's daughter, Blue Ivy, and her natural locks. Fast forward to 2017 and my now 2 and 4 year old girls are discovering their natural beauty, but not without some struggles.
My oldest daughter often admires the long, straight and blonde (sometimes brunette) hair of her classmates while complaining about the appearance of her own. "I hate my hair! I wish it were straight like yours!" she said one day.
WOW! How can I help her embrace her natural beauty while I do everything I can to mask mine - whether with a relaxer or a weave? It was in that moment that I decided to embark upon a journey of my own - the journey towards embracing my own natural locks.
I was not brave enough to chop all my hair off, so I opted to wear a sew-in weave while my hair grew out a bit. Six months later, I took a HUGE step and had the weave removed and a Keratin treatment put on my hair. This may not seem like a big deal to some women, but for me it most certainly was. My mom always struggled with my hair - from hot combs, to jheri curls to relaxers, she was at a loss for what to do with my "nappy hair."
I have come to discover that I don't have "bad hair;" I have my hair which has the potential to be healthy in all its natural beauty. I said goodbye to a 23 year ritual of relaxers and embraced the woman God made me to be. The Keratin treatment will help me maintain a straight look as my relaxer grows out.
For the first time ever, I came home from the hair salon with an extra boost of confidence and assurance of who I am. I approached my girls with pride as they marveled over my hair. I am not against relaxers or other ways of enhancing your beauty. For me, I knew that I was getting relaxers because I was not comfortable with my natural hair, and as the mother of two girls, that was NOT OK! My daughters have taught me to embrace my hair and who I am. My girls and I are learning and growing together. Life is sweet that way! ;)
Do you have any stories of ways your children have taught you an important life lesson? Please share in the comments below. I'd LOVE to hear from you! xoxoxo