It is perhaps the first major decision you and your partner have to make for your baby. I am talking about choosing a name for your little angel! Indeed, the name you choose will have a huge impact on your child; some would even say that your child's name will shape his or her personality traits.
While choosing your baby's name can be seen as an enormous undertaking, I encourage you to relax and have fun with the process. After all, this is a joyous occasion, not a stressful life event! Here is how my husband and I chose our girls' names in a way that resulted in peace and excitement, not an all-out marital dispute.
- Do the initial baby name search separately. This is a way of allowing each other to search within their own hearts for what name may be the perfect match for your baby, without judgement.
- DO NOT seek help from outsiders. This is a decision that should be made by you and your partner. PERIOD. It took two of you to make the baby - not you, your mama, your mother-in-law, neighbor...you get the idea. The more people you get involved in the process, the more you can expect to experience confusion and tension.
- Bring your lists together and narrow the names down. Once my husband and I came up with our individual top 10 lists, we brought them together. We were pleasantly surprised to see several repeats the first time around, however, there were no repeats with our 2nd munchkin. It was an excellent way to have fun with the process and get into each others brains. Because we both felt like our voices were already heard, we were able to amicably narrow the list down as a team, and chose "The One" together.
- Research name meanings. If name meanings are important to you, then you better do your research. We came close to choosing one name until we found out the meaning of the name was "chalk landing place." Different strokes, different folks.
- Keep the name a secret until the baby's birth. I know. I know. This is a tough one, but even I was able to keep mum on both of our babies' names and I am a chatterbox! This is very important if you want to avoid possible criticism of your name choice. I cannot tell you how many times I've heard people say that they had chosen a name that they were perfectly happy with, but once they heard so many negative opinions from family and friends, they changed the name. Now they live with regret. This is YOUR baby, not your best friend's!
I hope I was able to turn a potentially stressful situation into a stress-free one! Enjoy the moment and remember: It took two of you to bring this baby into your lives, so don't involve dozens in the decision-making processes! Have fun!